Wednesday 4pm:- I am trying to wind up a hectic day at work, collecting the necessary reports and documents for my work trip that night. I need to pick up my daughter from home and reach her music class at 5pm from Parel to chowpatty…(Thats a 45 minute distance in Mumbai, could be more) I just about make it on time every week- we both look forward to this bonding and musical hour in class.
Once the class was over- I had another agenda in mind- exchange her library toys too.. I was goin to be away for the next 3 days so just wanted to ensure I spend time with her but also finish all the chores before I leave.. But here I was in the middle of the road-with 4 bags in hand, and a daughter on a chocolate tantrum, no cabs in sight – and the mind still making a list of last minute packing and errands to do before taking a flight in the next few hours….mentally taxed! At that point – I gave into the anger and later managed to get through the remaining hours experiencing a host of emotions- worry, tension, last minute rush and the thought of few hours of sleep before a spate of meetings.
But just at the door- my little daughter pleasantly surprised me by happily saying a ba-bye and reminded me to bring her back a baby leopard soft toy. She said she was going to be fine with her daddy and grandmother. I think it evaporated all the tension that I had felt a few seconds ago.. She was a happy reflection of me at a time when I was probably not in such a happy state of mind- she was probably doing her best to make me feel good after what she may have witnessed that evening. She was somewhere reminding me that she learns from me and wants to see me happy again.. And I told myself- despite me not being ok at times… The little wonder will still give me a reassuring smile and think I mean a world to her…
This left me wondering why do we mums over burden ourselves with chores at times.. I hear from the circle of mums around me telling me how they juggle between cooking, managing guests at home and getting their child ready for exams…or sometimes shuffling between work commitments and social outings alongwith a child whose unwell..and yet multi tasking so brilliantly on most occasions. And then comes one such day when we want to give up…What do we do on that day:
I think first things first- Let the frustration get out by finding a listening ear- could be your mum, hubby or a friend..they may not even advice but it works as an instant solution to vent out.
Prioritise – some initially important tasks can still wait so postpone them to a later day..
Music heals – probably the most soothing and distracting therapy..
Laugh it out- it seriously is petty in the larger scheme of things..
And lastly know that it’s ok for the schedules to go for a toss.. Your little bundle of joy still thinks Ur the best mum !
Always remember: Your child is watching you and may probably learn to deal with their problems the same way as you do.. Don’t let your impatience for these few minutes ride over their childhood. Their tantrums, trials and experiments and sometimes stubbornness is normal and they deserve a share of it… !!
Shruti Vora is a mother of chirpy three-year old, Diyaa. From being a working women at an investment bank to a full-time mom, and then again shuffling between the two..she lives a fast-paced, however, contended life on all fronts.