1.Give Your Toddler Some Space
Sometimes a kid just needs to vent his anger out. So let him.
2.Create a Diversion
Children have very short attention spans -which means they’re usually easy to divert. And it ALWAYS helps.
3.Discipline Without Spanking
The next time you feel the urge to spank, take a deep breath instead and consider what you want your toddler to learn, as he will also learn to handle anger in that way.
4.Find Out What’s Really Frustrating Your Kid
Teaching your little one how to sign a few key words — such as more, food, milk, and tired — can work wonders.
Hugs make kids feel secure and let them know that you care about them, even if you don’t agree with their behavior.
6.Speak Calmly and Practice Self Control
Talking in a soothing voice shows your toddler that you’re not going to let her behavior get to you. What helps your child learn is when your response shows her a different, more constructive way to handle these feelings.
7.Talk about Feelings and How to Cope
Read books and notice aloud how the characters are feeling: ‘The dog is really happy that he got a bone.’ And share your own feelings. When your child can label how he is feeling, it helps him gain control over his emotions and communicate them to others.
8. Teach Them How to Express Their Anger
Cuddle up in some cozy corner of home or draw a picture or some other strategy that you feel is appropriate. Teach your child that there are many ways to express his feelings in healthy, non-hurtful ways.
9.Empathize with Your Toddler
If your little one has to wait until his meal has cooled down, show him the steam rising from the bowl. Tell him that when the steam goes away, you can test the meal on a spoon to see if it is cool enough
10. Use Timers
If there are 2 or more kids playing, give them each a few minutes, using the timer, to play with a toy they both want
11.Let them make their own choices
Appropriate to their age, about what to wear, and what to eat (within reason), what to play, whom to play with. This gives them a feeling of control and supports their growing confidence and sense of competency, the belief that “I can do it”. P
12.Help them “Practice” Self-Control.
There are many daily moments when you can teach your child this skill. For example, games that require turn-taking are great for practicing how to wait and share. Rolling a ball back and forth is an example.
Or try acting out a story. Pretend play offers many chances to wait, take turns, and negotiate as children decide how the story will unfold.
Neelam Vakil is a Psychotherapist , and child and adolescent behavioural counsellor in South Mumbai.She conduct workshops on Parenting, Children behavior, Sexuality education, Brain gym, Aptitude test and Career guidance.
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